If  the gospel according to Matthew in 7:7-8 says, “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” So, what are you still waiting for? Or perhaps the insecurities below are preventing you from soaring on eagle’s wings and arriving at the mountain top?

She is better than me: No, she isn’t
The Leah complex makes a woman to believe another woman is better than her. Leah’s story captured in Genesis 29 reveals that Leah struggled with the fact that Jacob preferred Rachael to her. So great was the competition between Leah and Rachel that all of Leah’s life was devoted to winning Jacob’s approval.

For instance, when she began having children for Jacob, this complex manifested as she gave names to their children. “Leah became pregnant and had a son. She named him Reuben (Look-It’s-a-Boy!). “This is a sign,” she said, “that God has seen my misery; and a sign that now my husband will love me.” “She became pregnant again and had another son. “God heard,” she said, “that I was unloved and so he gave me this son also.” She named this one Simeon (God-Heard). She became pregnant yet again—another son. She said, “Now maybe my husband will connect with me—I’ve given him three sons!”

When you get rid of the Leah complex, you come to realize that the person whose shadow you are standing in is probably someone who has come a long way in life. From the University of Life where we live and learn, she probably has learnt over the years how to maximize her strengths and just like you, she has weaknesses, but she has learnt how to eliminate or master them.

I can’t do it: Yes, you can
Life is a level playing field where we all have the opportunity and the chance. The difference is that most people miss their chance while others can’t recognize opportunities. The woman with the issue of blood in Luke chapter 8 is definitely a woman who can spot opportunity and one determined not to miss her chance. When she saw Jesus, “She came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak, and immediately her bleeding stopped.”

For any woman with a goal to accomplish;  she represents fearlessness, courage, single mindedness, boldness, and determination.

I wish I was her: You don’t have to be someone else

All you have to do is to improve yourself. The reason why we have mentors and role models is because there is something about them, we admire. This means you must learn to emulate, admire, and be inspired by others. Mary Magdalene  (Luke 8:2) reminds us of the glory that can come out of a woman, once possessed by demons. After her total and complete deliverance, she became a vessel unto honor and was the first to see the risen Christ.

To become the desire of heaven, every woman must constantly invest in her spiritual growth and physical development.

I don’t like her:  Get a grip

Since life is about people and no one can exist in isolation, Philippians 2:3 teaches us how to develop an effective team spirit. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.”

To align with other women and form mutually benefiting relationships, you must appreciate and discover how to value another person. Everyone has their usefulness and if we cannot see beyond each other’s weak points,  we are in danger of missing out on what the other person has to offer.

I’m afraid:  I beg your pardon?

The fear of the unknown and venturing into new territories is a drawback for many women and a major insecurity that keeps them from achieving their full potential. Ruth in the bible (Ruth 1:16-17) had no idea what the future had in store, but she decided to follow Naomi into a new place. When she launched out in boldness and left the old place behind, what she received was a better place and a more pleasant experience.

Faith is a catalyst that allows the power of God to move and do a new thing. Fear, however, restricts and welcomes stagnancy.

My closing statements

In the journey of your life, God expects you to arrive at an expected end. So, have the courage to make mistakes, the humility to correct yourself and the wisdom to learn from them. The season of jubilee is here, so continue to glorify God and dare to fulfil your God given destiny. Always remember, if you stumble, act like it’s part of the dance.

Prayers

• The spirit of timidity, get out of my life in Jesus name.
• Holy Spirit, teach me how to develop my courage in Jesus name.
• I put off all weaknesses within me by the power in the blood of Jesus.
• Lord Jesus, walk back into every second of my life and rebuild it in Jesus name.
• New effectual doors of opportunity, be open unto me in Jesus name.